Most of the time, people enter my room full of questions. I appreciate your curiosity, attention, and interest. After all, I'm here to entertain and connect with you -- it's natural you should want to know more about me. That being said, not all questions are welcome. While there are some lines of inquiry that open up wide vistas of discovery, others can close off opportunities. Allow me to help you distinguish between these two types of questions, so that you'll have a better chance of charming me on cam.

The Cringe Set

Let's start with the groan-inducing questions. One of the most common offenders is, “What do you do in your shows?” Do you know where you are, sir? You are on a cam site. In my shows, I do what folks generally do on these sites. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you'd like an idea, there is information readily available to you in my profile. If you'd like something specific, use your words and ask me.

Next up is any question you ask me about what kind of male anatomy I prefer. Let me put this as clearly as I can: I do not care. I do not care how big your manhood is, what shape it is, or whether you were circumcised or not. Believe it or not, it's not about your d*ck, it's about the connection and the vibe. That being said, if you want me to comment specifically on your d*ck, that is a menu option I offer. Otherwise, do not ask about my preferences. I will not answer, and all you will discover is that you have been blocked.

Now for the most frequently asked (and simultaneously most cringe question (drumroll please)... "Do you like younger men?” I get this question all day, every day. The answer is actually no (see my article on ageism in the adult industry). In my experience, the men under 35 who seek me out on my cam site are rude, entitled, and cheap. I don't make this assertion lightly and I have years' worth of data to back it up. When I think of the antics they pull in my cam room to get free services from me and assert their grandiosity, I think of the line from the song "Suede," by Anderson .Paak and NxWorries: "You ain't lived long enough to have a bitch this fine." (Side note - incredible song and video!) Nah, young man. You annoy me. I prefer men with experience, wisdom, and the means to afford my services. So many young men come in waving youth and vigor like it's God's gift to me, but are unwilling to tip $3 to be polite. Their poor manners aside, I am simply not attracted to men younger than myself. It's a personal preference - deal with it.

One final note - do not ask me why I have the boundaries and limits that I have. I have them because I have them - period. The fact that you're asking me "but - why?" hints that you're willing to push someone's limits for your own pleasure, which means you are not someone I want to entertain. Do run along, dear.

The Charmers

Now, let’s shift gears and talk about the questions that truly charm me! I truly appreciate when someone takes the time to read my profile, look at my photos, and either make a comment or ask a question. One visitor pointed out the photo he liked best. Another mentioned he was intrigued by my more vanilla yet rock-n-roll leanings. He asked for an example, which I gladly gave. We got into a nice conversation. Many have commented on the overall "vibe" and "energy" of my profile and room, and I appreciate that. These are good openers for a conversation with me. After all, you're coming into MY room, so you may as well focus on me for a minute to see if we are compatible. And that doesn't mean barking an order at me, dude! Don't be rude.

An even better opener is to buzz my live tip vibe and ask me if I enjoyed it. The answer will always be a heartfelt "yes," because it is something I genuinely enjoy. It is sensuous, it is exciting, it is technologically advanced, and it is a safe way for us to be intimate even when we are thousands of miles apart. What could be more amazing? It can be a group activity in the free chat, or an intimate one-on-one game in exclusive. In addition to the tip vibe, there is a menu of options and a wheel you can spin for a surprise. I love it when visitors use these tools, because I love to entertain you in these specific ways. Every model's menu is unique, because the menu reflects our personal desires and delights. We take time to craft menus that showcase what we love to do, and when we love to do something, trust me, you will love to see it.

I'll share another sure-fire charmer with y'all: ask me questions about the music I love and play. One visitor asked me what my favorite concert had been, another asked me what was the first song I learned to play on the guitar. Many have charmed me by commenting on the songs I'm playing or dancing to. Interactions like these open the door for a meaningful exchange beyond the usual small talk or sex-focused banter. I agree with Madonna when she sang "music makes the people come together." Once the door to musical compatibility is opened, the intimacy gets hotter and hotter.

Wrap-Up: Engage Thoughtfully

As a final piece of advice for engaging with me, I'd say please be your authentic self. This isn't' a dating site, but I'm also not your typical transactional model. I love to develop online friendships that last (and there are benefits, heehee!). By engaging with care, you’ll not only charm me but also have a vastly more enjoyable experience. Can’t wait to see you around!